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From today's "Ask Amy":

Dear Amy: I've always held my friends closer than any boyfriend, because after a breakup my friends are the ones who will be there for me.

Duh. You don't break up with your friends. Usually, you just drift apart. Saying that you hold friends closer than boyfriends because they'll be there for you after a breakup is just begging the question. Of course your boyfriend isn't going to be there for you after a breakup. THEY JUST BROKE UP WITH YOU.

But I've never had this problem before. I recently started seeing "Rob." He's great. He's met a few of my friends, and they love him—all except my closest guy friend.

"Steve" is gay, and when we went out one night with my girlfriends, Steve felt Rob made some rude comments. I was there, and so were my girlfriends, and no one felt Rob was rude. I think maybe Steve was a bit too sensitive to something Rob said in an attempt to be funny. He didn't make any anti-gay comments or anything like that. Ever since, Steve is adamant that he does not like Rob.

That was their only meeting, but my relationship with Rob is getting fairly serious, so I'd like for him to be able to go out with all my friends, including Steve.

I feel guilty because I take my friends' opinions to heart, but I just don't think Rob is a bad guy, and all of my other friends think he's great. Rob has even asked about Steve a few times, so it's not as if Rob hates him.

What should I do?

I don't want Steve to think I'm betraying him.

—Wondering

Dear Wondering: You are right to take your friends' views seriously, but remember that you are the one dating Rob, and your judgment is the most important.

What are we, in high school? Do all of your friends need to like your boy/girlfriend? If you like the guy/chickie, what difference does it make if one of your friends doesn't? (Assuming, of course, that your friend's dislike isn't rooted in legitimate and genuine concerns -- such as genuine douchebaggery -- that you're blind to because your boy/girlfriend is really frickin' hot.)

Do you like him/her? That's all that matters. If your friend doesn't, that's his problem and one that he's going to have to learn to get over if he wants to remain your friend.

And this whole "I don't want Steve to think I'm betraying him" business is a huge red flag. Steve isn't your husband or your priest, lady. He's a friend. He doesn't get a say in who you date. No one does. There's entirely too much emphasis being placed on friendship here. I see a rocky marriage in someone's future.